Because the best relationship you can have is the one with yourself

I was lucky to have the privilege of spending Valentine’s Day with one of my favourite persons. My friend and I had a little spontaneous ‘date night/ groceries run’ and, thanks to her, I ended the night feeling un-lonely.

A stalk of red rose I gave her (Aren’t I the sweetest friend!?)

But, technically, I spent my Valentine’s Day alone. And like other holidays we faced during the pandemic, Valentine’s Day this year will feel different. But, we can still celebrate it without feeling lost.

Some people get down on themselves when they find themselves single on February 14th. Trying to…

Originally written in my journal on 20th January 2021

Just because you don’t understand, it doesn’t mean it isn’t so.”
– Lemony Snicket, The Blank Book

An excerpt from one of my favourite films as a young teenager in the midst of sprouting out of puberty. Trying to figure me out, life, friendship, while balancing my teenage angst and emotional instability. I couldn’t understand the meaning of it at the time and I never bothered to. I thought I was somewhat matured, thinking that there’s nothing in life that you won’t understand if you put the effort to do so.

I’m 25 now; it’s been aeons since that moment…

It is no doubt that Joe Biden makes a courageous choice picking Kamala Harris; risky, bold, but historic. But, here’s the reality check: running mates have little direct on voters.

“Do Running Mates Matter” book perhaps will give you a better explanation on that. To summarise, in general, voters are very unlikely to choose a presidential ticket simply because they like or dislike the second-in-command. When people go to the polls, they are primarily expressing a preference for the presidential candidate, not the second person on the ticket.

To Biden’s point, representation such as that of an Obama or a…

It didn’t have to take so long.

When a non-white, female American citizen born in the United States has gotten a place on the presidential ticket carried by the Democrats, the birthers immediately came to scurry out from whatever rock they have been living under since Obama ended his term.

Hours. That’s how long it took for them to pose, “Some Questions for Kamala Harris and Her Eligibility,” on a reputable news channel after the announcement by Joe Biden on Wednesday was made.

The author, a conservative law professor — why’s this not a surprise — wrote that “some” are…

For a while now, racism has been seen as violence augmented by far-right extremists, but, actually, a more insidious kind of prejudice can be found where we least expect it- at the centre of respectable society.

I limited my engagement with the privileged ones on the topic of race. Not everyone, just the vast majority who deny the existence of structural racism and its symptoms. Engaging without the gulf of an emotional disconnect just seems unnatural and implausible as you feel their eyes shut down and hardened.

As I watched the documentary The Color of Fear by Lee Mun Wah, I saw people of colour bursting down in tears as they grappled to convince a defiant white man that his words were perpetuating white racist standard on them. …

This article has been excerpted and published in New Strait Times and SAYS.

Stay at home, wash your hands, and don’t touch your face. The trifecta to public health official’s advice in curbing the spread of COVID-19 we keep on hearing.

We’ve cancelled any mass gatherings; concerts, sporting events; and asked people to work from home whenever possible. But, as the period of social distancing is getting extended, whether giving up physical recreational time with family and friends is worth the plausible harm to our emotional and social contentment has been the question to many. …


A lazy deontologist turns into an occasional writer when she’s broke.

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